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In The Beginning #5

By the middle of June 1989 I had been on two dates with my big time crush, had held hands with a guy for the first time ever and had my heart broken.  To make matters worse, that Big Time Crush was the hired man on our farm.

Didn’t take long for Kirk and I to get into a friendship groove again.  Spending five and six days~sometimes seven days a week seeing one another and often during off hours working with the chuckwagon and chariot and going to chuckwagon races, we were bound to become friends again.

Renee, the girlfriend~ex-girlfriend and once again girlfriend didn’t like it.  Kirk made no attempt to hide the fact that she hated him working for dad and wanted him to quit.  She would go to the chuckwagon races~sit at his pickup the entire time and would make him leave once the races were over.  It hurt my heart and I missed my friend when he wasn’t around.

One afternoon when dad and brother had to be away it was me, my mom and Kirk.  It was a 100+ F. day and the only thing that needed to be done was making sure the cattle were kept as cooled down as possible.  We had a water tank we would fill and take out to the feedyards to spray the yards down.  I drove the tractor and tank and Kirk ran the hose on the tank.  Renee drove past all afternoon~she never had the balls to stop~Kirk knew he was going to get an earful later on.

We had so much fun that day!  We had water fights and hung out in the cool basement while the tank filled between loads.  That day I forgot about those horrid two first dates and just hung out with one of my best friends.

Before long Kirk was staying longer and longer after work.  He’d have supper and stay and play cribbage with me and dad.

Think it was towards the end of July when Kirk broke up with Renee and asked me to give him another chance.  His town was going to be having a large cookout and concert and wanted me to go with him. Well of course I’d give him another chance!

Friday night we went out~don’t recall what we did.  I do remember when I walked him out to his pickup to leave he asked for a kiss.  Again, who freaking asks?  Just do it already!  Nervous, I tripped over my dog Warsaw~told him the next night.  He gave me a mooch on the cheek and said goodnight.

Holy Crap!  I was never going to wash my cheek again!  Flying in Seventh Heaven!

The next evening we went into town to the community picnic and to watch The Forrester Sisters concert~which was good but would have been better had they not complained about being downwind of a cattle yard.

Plus for the evening….No Renee!

Afterwards we went home while the rest of my family stayed in town.  We turned on the tv in the livingroom and sat on the couch.  Kirk asked a number of times for that kiss I’d promised the night before~I was too nervous, I’d never been kissed before.  Why couldn’t he just do it already.

Nervous as hell, I mentioned being hungry and that we should go to my town to the drive inn.  He wanted his kiss first, I promised after the drive inn…so off we went!

We made it home to see the end of the local news and Saturday Night Live.  Elvis Costello was the musical guest on the summer rerun.  Kirk asked me to dance during Costello’s first number.

We slow danced in the dining room.  I remember being so nervous~we continued to dance after the song ended~I kept looking down at the floor~terrified of that kiss.  Eventually Kirk said, “We’re going to dance a hole in the floor”~I looked up at him and BAM~he finally kissed me!

We danced and kissed until the show was over then moved to the couch and stayed there until after The Beach Boys special that had been on after SNL was over.  We no more than came up for a breather and my sister drove in the drive, shortly followed by my folks.

What a night!

Oh, and Kirk eventually told me the reason for his continually asking for that first kiss.  My sister told him that if he even thought about kissing me that he’d best ask cause knowing me I’d pry punch him if he just did it!  What a goon!

That First Summer

I was attracted to Kirk from the first moment I saw him.  There was something about the way he held himself, he was very confident and there seemed a wild side peeking out from his quiet demeanor.

Oh, I tell him that it was his pickup that I fell for, and it was a pretty hot pickup, but it was all him!  There was something about a tan, muscular cowboy that also drove a motorcycle!

I had to have him!  Didn’t know how it was going to happen, but I had to have him.  Fuck that he had a girl friend!

Kirk and I slowly became friends once he started working as our hired hand the summer of 1989, before my junior year and his senior year in high school.

That summer mom was working and I was in charge of taking care of dinner and supper most days.  It took awhile, but we slowly became friends.  Loved it when dad needed my help working cattle with him and the boys!  There were the occasional days when dad and brother were both busy and I would get to help Kirk.  Loved those times!

When Kirk and I went out on our first date I was thrilled beyond thrilled!  The first date really sucked thanks to his ex, but the second date was really nice.  He even asked me if he could kiss me as he was leaving for the night!  I’d never kissed anyone, I was so nervous that I said no…damn it, I just wanted to be kissed, not asked!  (Later he told me my sister warned him to not just kiss me because I was the kind of person that would hit him if he tried…Thanks sis!)

Of course, two days after the first date my brother had to tell me that Kirk went back to his ex…CHICKEN SHIT!

After the little episode it took awhile before we were able to pick up and become friends again.  Slowly but surely it did happen and although I was happy to have him as a friend, I really hated that he was with that girl who he’d told me had tried to control him right down to telling him he couldn’t see his friends because she didn’t like him.

About a month after he had my brother tell me that he was back with the ex, he showed up to tell me that he’d screwed up when he’d let the ex talk him into giving her another chance, that he really liked me and hoped I’d give him another chance. You got it!  With a wink and a smile that boy had me wrapped around his little finger!

Don’t remember what we did the night of the second first date, but I do remember Kirk asking for a goodnight kiss.  Just like the time before, didn’t want to be asked, wanted to just be kissed and swept off my feet!  I promised he’d get a kiss the next night, he gave me a goodnight kiss on the cheek!  One of those, I’m never going to wash this cheek ever again, type of moments.

The next night we went to this big festival in Kirk’s small town, there was bar-b-q and a country music concert with The Forrester Sisters.  

Afterwards we went home while my family stayed in town.  We watched some tv and then went to the drive inn in my town, the boy kept asking for his kiss and I was so stinkin’ nervous that I kept coming up with other things to stall.

Later we were sitting and watching Saturday Night Live.  Elvis Costello was the musical guest and during his first song, Kirk asked me to dance…it was a slow dance.  We danced in the dining room throughout the entire song and kept dancing throughout the show and through the next song.  At some point Kirk was able to get me to look up from the floor long enough to get my eye contact and THAT WAS IT!  The boy finally did the manly thing and just KISSED me!  It was…..AMAZING!

We spent the rest of the evening making out, first standing in the dining room and then to the couch in the living room.  My sister getting home for the evening ended that lip lock.

That night was THE BEST!

For the rest of summer we were inseparable.  He would work at all for my dad and brother and he’d stay for supper, I would ride home with him afterwards and would sit and visit with his folks and sister while he showered and cleaned up for the night and then we’d head back to my house until the tv went off the air for the night.  Oh, the days!

We spent every moment together that we were able.  Seven days a week.  Mom later said that she didn’t know how our starting to date happened, I wasn’t allowed to date until senior year, it just kind of happened under her nose.  My folks had liked Kirk and think they felt he wasn’t a threat.  Kirk and my mother have been picking at each other and starting play fights with one another since that very first summer.  

One week before school was to start I finally gave into him and we had sex behind the machine shed, on the grass bank next to the cattle yard.  Talk about romantic!  I remember thinking, that’s what was such a big deal?  The soaps and movies make such a big deal about sex, I didn’t get it.

Then school started.  I was back to my school and he was back to his school, the same as his ex girlfriend…..